Make and Keep Your 2024 New Year’s Resolutions

January 2, 2024

Hello, my long-lost friends! If you’ve been wondering where I’ve been for the last year, well…let’s just say I’ve been trying to stay afloat. In August 2022, for some crazy reason, I decided to head back to school and pursue my doctorate in education. It’s easy to return to the classroom after graduating 30 years ago, right? Ha! It’s been challenging, rewarding, and downright exhausting at times. But the good news is that I only have two more semesters before my dissertation writing begins, so I decided to come out from under the rock I’ve been living in and begin connecting with you, again. 🙂

This year, I’m trying something new—a New Year’s Resolution, of sorts. A new goal for 2024 means there needs to be a mindset shift. I hope you will support me with this new venture/blog. Be sure to hit subscribe at the end (it’s free!)

As we welcome a new year, there is an opportunity to step outside our comfort zones. A new year means resolutions. Begin an exercise routine. Lose weight. Eat better. Connect more often with family and friends. You know the drill. Chances are that you’ve made resolutions throughout the years in hopes of reaching a personal goal, only to return to your regular habit within a few months.

According to Oscarsson et al. (2020), 50% of Americans set resolutions each year. By the end of the first week, almost 25% of them have been broken. Yikes, this is not reassuring! These goals are slated as long–term behavior changes; however, the reality is – how can we achieve them past the first week if this statistic holds?

As parents, it’s easy to want to be more patient, organized, or attentive, but some foundations must be established before changing a behavior.

One, identify the change you want to achieve. Be specific and realistic. If you want to be more organized, find one area on which to focus, such as a closet or a drawer. One small project can boost your confidence and morale to move to other areas. Simple, achievable tasks can lead to the ultimate resolution of becoming more organized.

Second, trust yourself. Making resolutions means you want to see a change and, that desire to change is, likely, gnawing at you. Trusting yourself to be strong and focused with a belief in yourself provides the confidence boost you need from within to achieve your goals.

Third, find an accountability buddy or mentor who will celebrate the wins and provide support during challenges. Be discreet in your choice because it’s important to feel positive about the resolution, despite setbacks. An effective compatibility buddy can be the difference between success and not being successful (I dislike the word “failure”).

Fourth, celebrate the wins! Each step forward is a step closer to reaching your goal. Sure, there may be setbacks, but any forward motion is generally positive. Pat yourself on the back, eat some ice cream, or watch a must-see movie. You’ve earned it!

You’ll notice that these suggestions are no different than helping your child change their behavior. Identify the change, trust yourself to help the child achieve the change, support your child, and then celebrate the wins.

This sounds so easy, right? It’s not as simple, unfortunately. Change is hard, frustrating, and difficult to overcome when the behavior(s) have been in place for a long time. But humans are designed to adapt, change, and morph into better versions of ourselves. It’s important to recognize our abilities and seek change when necessary. Our capabilities are endless!

As 2024 rolls in, take a moment to reflect on what you ARE capable of and what resolutions will be successful. These tips help you achieve a new, confident, and changed life.

So, as I begin offering a blog twice a month with insights into parenting, child-rearing, and general life happenings, I’m counting on you to be my resolution buddy and keep me accountable. I’m happy to be yours, too! 🙂

Wishing you the best in the new year, and I look forward to watching you become the change you wish to see in the world.

References

Oscarsson, M., Carlbring, P., Andersson, G., & Rozental, A. (2020). A large-scale experiment on New Year’s resolutions: Approach-oriented goals are more successful than avoidance-oriented goals. PLOS ONE, 15(12). https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0234097

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